Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Weekdates

It is in the day-to-day occurrences, that my love for Cody grows the most.  Even any old, middle of the week day, can turn into a sanctuary when I share it with him. So here's an example of a week full of Cody, where none of the things we did were planned ahead of time and yet, we ended up having days full of fun and more importantly, growing closer together.

Fridate


    Nice day for a bike ride. I love riding my bike, even if I do crash every once in a while, so I suggested to Cody that we go on a long bike ride.  We went to Discovery Park to ride sometimes fast, sometimes slow.
Sometimes even stopping to pick blackberries.
It's a good place to go fast if you like and on the way back home, stop for a dip in the river, which is what we did and then rode back home in wet clothes. At home, we made ourselves a delicious frozen fruit smoothie.








Sundate

    We had planned on watching the Orphanage on this day, but instead me just ate a spaghetti dinner and drank wine.  We also had a HUGE delicious! salad.  Salads with Cody always taste amazing!! We spent the rest of the night talking and before we knew it, we had run out of time to watch the movie.  It was still a very enjoyable night. Wine makes us giggly.










Tuesdate
     Ok, this date was planned, because we told ourselves that tonight would be the night to watch The Orphanage. I've seen it countless times, but Cody hadn't and he loved it! He brought me cherries as a present and I ate them as we watched. Though eating during a scary movie takes away from the ambiance, I'm glad I was able to watch it again. After the movie, we talked some more.  I was feeling a bit upset from earlier in the day and though I had enjoyed the movie, that feeling was still in the back of my mind.  But after talking with him, I felt a lot better! It was a very uplifting date:
"I believe in you.
I know you can do it.
Trust yourself to do what you have to do to progress and grow.
We will get through this.
I love you."



Fridate
     And all things come back to where they start, or at least this post does, because not only did we have another Fridate, we also went to the river again.  Only this time, it was back to my favorite swimming spot in Auburn. I wish I could take my family here, but I guess I just have to accept that I can't bring in everyone into my happy world, especially if they make it difficult to. 
Afterward, we went to this tiny spot in Rocklin to boulder in an old quarry site. I, however, couldn't do anything at all on account that I had scraped my leg when I slid off a rock in the river. 
 
On our way home, we stopped by Subway for- yup, you've guessed it!- a veggie patty sandwich. As Summer draws close to an end, I think I will remember back on this summer as being The Summer of River & Subway Love (unless, we keep going to a lot of rivers during other summers. In that case, I will start confusing my summers if I call it that. Good thing I have this blog to keep me straight.)

Sunday, July 29, 2012

More Movie Dates

Dark Knight Rises

 WOW! This movie is AWESOME! Cody LOVES Batman & Christian Bale, so he was quite excited to see it.  I like Batman too, but I wasn't too excited about the movie, (I'm not big on action). But the trailer made it seem pretty cool, so I wanted to see it, I just wasn't peeing my pants for it.  But OMG!!!! You have to watch this even if  you didn't think it'd be that great; it'll blow your mind once you see it!.  The last 10 minutes especially, had me gripping Cody's hand really hard. And when the movie ended, I wanted to jump up and down and hoot and holler.  Even hours after we came out of the theater, while sipping our Jamba Juice in McKinley Park, our minds were still on fire from this movie.  So exciting! So good!  The rest of the day was spent chilling in the garden at home, talking about the movie.  
We also talked, like everyone else in the country, about the Colorado shooting.  I feel sad for the victims and also mad that someone could turn what is suppose to be an entertaining break from life into a real life massacre. I mean, there were kids there too! Arrgh, it makes me mad....



Polisse

 We saw this a few days ago, and let me tell you, it was intense! Our first French film! Though we were on a movie date, it wasn't quite so cheerful because this movie is an emotional downer.  Don't get me wrong, it's really good; it does a good job of portraying the emotional turmoil that the Child Protection Unit in the French Police go through in trying to punish those who take advantage of children.  Atop of the personal problems these officers go through, there is also the sickening acts that adults do to children. Yet despite all the gut wrenching, I believe one of the points of the story is that they do punish the offender and doing so, they offer hope, not just for children, but hope for humanity as well. But the film's last scene does a good job in emphasizing that pain and hope are present at the same time in life.

One of our favorite scenes is the one where a little boy is left at the station by his mother because they are homeless and she doesn't want him to grow up in the streets.  They've exhausted all the possibilities of staying at a shelter and even the CPU couldn't obtain shelter for both of them, just the little boy. The mother therefore had to be separated from her son and he is inconsolable, but in a very touching scene, one of the officers tries to offer some comfort. You can feel the boy's pain, as well as the officer's. Cody and I both wanted to cry.

And another of my favorite scenes was when an officer of Muslim descent chews out a Muslim man who has sold his 12 year old daughter into marriage, confronting him that no where in the Qur'an does it say that its ok to sell your daughter and let her be raped by her so called husband. She even throws a copy of the Qur'an in front of him.This serves as a reminder that it is we as humans who are ultimately the root of evil, but also, because it is our actions that make us evil, they can also be our salvation by doing the right thing. We can, as people with different religions, co-exists peacefully, as long as we keep in mind that WE are responsible for our own actions.

Hmm...this post has turned a bit philosophical, sorry.  I'm kinda scared to make this post public, but why should I be ashamed of what I think? If anything it's an invitation for conversation and growth.

Our next movie date is El Orfanato.  I've seen it many times, but it will be Cody's first time. And he will get to practice his Spanish!  I promise my next post will be cheerier. 

I Heart Sonoma County

[Sung to the tune of Lollipop] Sugarloaf, sugarloaf, oh sugar sugarloaf. sugarloaf, da dun dun dun dun dun.

Well, it goes something along those lines.  But what I do know for sure is that Cody and I had a lot of fun on our most recent trip, which was to Sugarloaf Ridge State Park in Sonoma County. It was only for two days but they were two very relaxed and fun filled days. Cody's main goal was to boulder in the area and mine, of course, to just scramble on the rocks, which I do enjoy very much even if there is no technique to it.  But even whimsical scrambling has its dangers; I almost twisted/sprained my ankle when I slipped off a rock. Thankfully, it only hurt when I pressed down a certain way.

Cody on the other hand, is so much better than I am and looks good doing it too! There was this one problem that he just couldn't get even though he tried and tried. And then, when he had given up, he said, "one more try." But first he closed his eyes and breathed in for a while.  I guess he was collecting his mind in preparation for one final try.  As he was doing this, an insect started making a whirring sound.  It started softly, but it increased in loudness as the seconds ticked off.  Then an owl interrupted that sound by hooting softly a few times.  With this new motivation, Cody started the problem one more time, by traversing diagonally across the face. But then he reached the edge of the face where he had to go straight up; this is the part where he had fallen all those other times. Everything was quiet and even I was holding my breath.  Just as it seemed that he couldn't hold on any longer and was about to fall, the owl gave another singular hoot. It was as if he was cheering Cody on to not give up. That owl lent him the strength to make that final push over the difficult part onto a good hand hold. From there on, the rest of the problem seemed like cake as Cody lifted himself unto the top of the rock.  Sweaty, out of breath, and with trembling limbs I believe this problem, along with the magic of nature, reaffirmed Cody's love for this sport. I feel so lucky that he includes me on his trips and lets me witness this.


It was a hot day, so during a bouldering break, we went in search of a waterfall that was suppose to be near by. Cody warned me that this far into the summer, there might not be a waterfall and that we'd be lucky to even find the creek. But I didn't lose hope and so, we kept on hiking downhill towards the water.  I guess it would be nice to say that we found a majestic waterfall with circling mist at its base, but we didn't.  However, we did sort of find a little one. It was just a small shower falling down the rocks, but it had a beautiful rainbow across it and the water puddled up in a small pond encircled by moss covered boulders. The creek was ankle deep in some places and knee deep in others.  But at the base of the trickling waterfall, it was waist deep (at least on me), so I took off my clothes and went swimming in my undies. The water was very, very cold, but it felt so good too. Cody kept a look out for other hikers. And trusting that he would do a good job, I let myself feel free in the small waterfall pool like a little 3 year old splashing in a bathtub.

We got back to the campsite a bit before sunset to shower. Yes, there were showers at this site: 1 quarter = 40 seconds of water (they're on a well system). And the neat thing is that their bathrooms have AC. Anyway, once we got cleaned up, we realized we still had time to visit Santa Rosa's Night Market, which is like a farmers' market but with live music and stalls for city businesses and organizations.  It was very lively and it had cheap food too.  We got a big helping of thai food with dessert, and extra sides, as well as tai chai tea all for just $13!! We had a blast at this market and we left with fond memories of Santa Rosa. Oh, and while we were there we decided to use different names: Cody was Crash and I was Evening-Bird-That-Sits-Under-A-Willow Tree-Singing-Songs-Over-The-River; too bad nobody asked us our names.
 

And this was all just in the first day! The following morning, we packed up and were debating between visiting Jack London's House or go further north for perhaps more bouldering and swimming adventures. I had always wanted to go to Jack London's House, ever since I saw an episode about it on some show on PBS. How could I have lived so close to all these different and cool places and never even known about it, much less visited! Well, as much as I wanted to visit JLH, we decided to wait until Cody reads some of his books. So then it was decided, MORE SWIMMING AND BOULDERING!  I love riding in the car with Cody; it doesn't seem like a chore when I'm with him. We talk and listen to radiolabs and music and I sing outloud. He is the only one that stands my singing and for that I am grateful because its also very freeing to sing out loud with no worries of people criticizing you or telling you to shut up.

But we hadn't gotten very far when I noticed another creek. I wanted to explore it, so we got out of the car and spent  a looooong time there. The further up the creek we got, the more isolated it became. We saw a cool yellow and black dragonfly that kept dipping its tail in the water. I think it was laying eggs!  And there were spiderwebs everywhere! So cool! And Cody found a salamander! (But I forgot what kind it was). That creek will be forever in our memories.


But on with our travels! We soon arrived at the Russian River where we swam for a while. The water was cool, but not freezing, and again, it was a hot day, so it was very refreshing. However, this time there were people around, so I couldn't take off my clothes. No matter, we went in the water with our clothes on. I had a lot of fun swimming in that river but hunger drove us in search of food, which the town we were in (what was the name of that town?) had very little vegan options, but at least there was subway. Not that there's anything wrong with subway; we love the veggie patties.  


Afterward, we drove on to Goat Rock near Jenner on the coast. It was gorgeous out there with the coast to our backs and the sunset's light casting its golden glow on us. There were other climbers there too, so I think it must be a popular rock. The only thing I did not like about this location is the actual rock; it was too slippery. Rough stones may hurt your hand, but at least you don't slip from them. I got stuck on top one of these rocks and I almost started crying from panic when I was trying to come down. Once I was on the ground I felt silly for wanting to cry because I realized that I was only about a foot off the ground. It seems like no matter what trouble I get myself into, Cody is always there to help me through it. He doesn't solve my problems or gets mad at me for getting myself stuck, he just very calmly reassures me and tries to guide me.  I love that about him.



Wow! I've written so much!  No worries, we are reaching the end of our trip.  After bouldering for a while, we made ourselves a dinner in the back of the car and then drove on home.

 As far from home as I felt, it really didn't take long to get back.  We were even home in time for bedtime. This was one of my favorite trips because of all the different activities and locations, plus I saw about 8 cute little deer, as well as all the other wildlife. Thank you Cody.


Thursday, July 5, 2012

Comments Issue Fixed?

Ok, so I think I've worked a way around the comments problem.  Apparently, some readers' comments don't show up after they're entered.  I'm not sure how I stumbled upon I Blog 4 Me, but I'm glad I did because they address this issue in their blogging tips:  "Try switching to POP UP in your comments settings because there is a glitch with embed below the post comments..."

That is exactly what was happening to me, so I switched from embedded to pop-up window for comments.  Let me know if it's working, so leave some love and comment! (Vivi, that means you.) Thank you :)

Moonlight Fantasy

Movie Date was AWESOME!! It lasted over 24 hours! We saw Brave, which was a really cute movie and I'm seriously considering dyeing my hair orange and adopting a Scottish accent.  Both Cody and I thought it was a nice movie and it reaffirmed our love for bears :)  I also realized that most of the movies we've seen together have been animated: Puss in Boots, Arrietty, Ratatouille, How to Train Your Dragon, and Brave.  Not animated: Prometheus, The Others, Earthlings.  But we have another movie date planned for tomorrow, so we'll be able to add to our non-animated list: Safety Not Guaranteed.

After the movie, we had a few drinks- we were bar hopping!  Ok, only 2 different bars, but it was still something I had never done before.  The Shady Lady is pretty on the inside but dark, their food didn't seem too appetizing and I was hungry.  So at Sapporo, we definitely  ordered food- non-vegan fried rice- and it was DELICIOUS!!!!



And then, because neither of us wanted to go home and Cody didn't have to work the next day, we decided to go to a dark place with no city lights in order to look at the night sky.  The moon was sooo pretty and illuminated everything in an ethereal glow.

The following morning, we took care of some school obligations together :)  and then the plan was to go see Safety Not Guaranteed, but it turned out to not be playing at the time we wanted, so, in a spontaneous decision, we decided to go swimming in the river!  But not just the Sacramento river, not even here in Sacramento.  Cody took me to Auburn where there's a delightful swimming spot. I felt so free swimming there.



On the way to the river we shared a veggie-patty Subway sandwich with avocado. Hmmm....So good! Not quite as good as the fried rice from the night before but that's only because it didn't taste like Brother Pig.  Besides, it was super hot, so a cold sandwich hit the spot perfectly.


After swimming, the surprises just kept on coming!  Cody decided to break Veganism for 1 day in order to eat pizza from Chicago Fire with me.  And it was one of the best pizzas I've ever eaten!  Also, the thickest!



We shared our pizza at McKinley Park in Sacramento next to the duck pond until we were chased away by a giant goose.  HONK!



I love my Cody :)


P.S.  Sorry I don't have my own pictures, forgot to take any. Google Image Search is awesome :P

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Butterflies

Sunnie & David  in Orange, CA





Still recuperating from that super long week, and I have the bruises and sore muscles to prove it. But it was oh, so much fun. David & Sunnie's wedding was charming, romantic, and wild all rolled into one; in short, it was awesome- not just for being part of their special day, but because I got to see lots of old friends too.  I do wish Cody could one day meet all of them, so they can all see for themselves how nice he is and he can get to know me a little more. 




Ashley & Heather in Tomales State Park






Besides the wedding, I also got to spend some time with even "older" friends, Ashley and Heather, when we went hiking at Tomales Park.   And of course, Super Long Week included lots of bouldering with Cody, both in Berkeley and Castle Rock, along with Mike and Katie. All that physical activity really made it a "wild" week.  


Mike, Katie & Cody @ Castle Rock

Cody helping me @ Castle Rock
Cody on top of rock @ Berkeley, CA



Cody walking Khajit & Nala





Yet, despite all the amazing trips Cody and I have done, it is the simple things that I cherish the most.  For example, walking the cats.  Just calling him to ask if he wanted to help, gave me butterflies in my stomach.  I was afraid he'd say no, which would have been understandable since its such a silly idea, but when he said yes, i felt as if we were going on one of those tentative first few dates.  We are going to to go on a movie date in a few days and I'm giddy with anticipation.  After all this time, he still makes me as nervous as the first time we met.  


However long this lasts, I will enjoy the moment. 


Cody & me @ Berkeley Farmers' Market






Thursday, June 7, 2012

Backyard Fun


Tomorrow marks the start of long weekend for me.  I'll be visiting SoCal for Sunnie & David's wedding, yay! But that also means 4 whole days without Cody.  Woe is me! But alas, we will survive somehow.


Ok, enough with the theatrics. I've been procrastinating on updating because a recent message from a friend got me thinking.  He's going through some relationship troubles and that made me realize that Cody and I still  haven't had a big disagreement. And no, the breakup doesn't count.  I'm talking about an actual hardcore disagreement that challenges our believes in ourselves, each other, and our relationship.  Don't misunderstand me, I'm not looking for one, nor do I ever want to have one.  But aren't those types of things always present in relationships? Even in non-romantic ones.  I suppose couples work through it though. "Relationships need work, not just passion and love." And I think we all know this on some level; I mean, aren't we always hearing it? But we don't really know this in practice; not until we're challenged into practicing it.  Many times, our values aren't defined until they're tested, like in a relationship.  So perhaps, another thing that relationships require is for each person to know themselves.  Cody and I haven't yet clashed on core values and this is quite scary to me because I would not want to break up with him just because we couldn't find a way around it.  I'd like to think that our open mindedness and willingness to compromise would carry us through, but until the real moment when we disagree comes up, I won't know.


So yes, I am scared, but like I said before, never again will I let my fear get in the way of my relationship with Cody.  I love you, Cody, so very very much.
That and the fun we can have just hanging out in the backyard makes me feel at home whenever I'm with him.  So now, on to the title of this post: Last week, Cody and I had a very simple day. We started off the morning by going to the farmer's market in downtown Sac and look at all the things we bought!
This is perfect for a still life painting, don't you think?  Hahaha, I wish I could draw.   Anyway, later in the day, we baked some bread- FROM SCRATCH. 

Some cups of white flour (so that the loaf doesn't come out heavy like a brick), Some more cups whole wheat flour, Maple Syrup, Yeast, ummm.....I forgot the rest.  As you can see, Cody is the cook in this relationship.  But I do remember that we mixed in Poppy Seed, Flax Seed, and Pumpkin Seed, both in the dough and also sprinkled some, along with oats, on top.

And here is the final product, Ta-Da!  And we plan on making many more in the future.  I love how he wants to be more self-reliant.  He enables me to become my ideal image of my own self.
And while we were waiting for the bread to cook, we watered the garden and played fetch with Dallas.  Doesn't she look like the happiest dog?  We also played tag in his backyard.  Yes, tag. Albeit, it was kiss tag- but still, quite childlike and of course, fun.




Cody lets me indulge in most of my silly whims; just a few days ago, I had an ice cream social.  Only my brother and Cody came, but it was still very fun!  And best of all, they let me pin silly paper candy on them. I love my brother, and I love Cody, and I love my family, and I love my cats :)

Yellow Candy!

Peppermint Bowtie with wannabe chocolate ice cream!




Meat for the carnivore!
Veggie Tostada!